What can I share with a pregnant friend?

Advice for pregnant friendQ: What can I share with a pregnant friend who just found out her baby is going to be born with a disability?

A: “For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb. Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” (Psalm 139:13, 16). We must always remember that children with disabilities are first and foremost individual children who are loved very deeply by God. Bless you for standing with your friend, reminding her of God’s loving providence over her own baby’s life.

We recommend you contact the Joni and Friends Area Ministry nearest you. They will be happy to offer support for your friend and her dear little one individually and through programs such as Joni and Friends Family Retreats. They will help connect her with other families of children with disabilities, which will be so important as she moves forward. If your friend is considering abortion, we highly recommend you and she connect with your local pro-life community pregnancy center. They will be able to offer wise counsel and support, as well as connect you with other local resources. More support in this area can be found through CHASK. In the first days and weeks after birth, your friend may find it helpful to contact the caring people at Hand to Hold. They offer support and resources to families of babies with special medical needs. Lastly, take a moment to read "10 Positive Things to Say to a New Mother." Your commitment to your friend during this confusing time will speak volumes and may offer her the encouragement she needs to step forward with hope.